Babies seem to be born with anger that triggers
quickly if they don't get what they want. They naturally yell their little heads off when hungry, uncomfortable, bored or
lonesome and this tends to bring someone running. Like so many of the faults we will spend the rest of our lives taming, anger
is necessary to keep us alive and motivated. Primal as anger feels, many experts say it is always a secondary emotion. What
comes first? Often, it is sadness or grief. And what is the sadness a baby feels? It is separation from the gentle rhythms
of the womb. It is memories of God. It is yearning for a closeness that seems lost forever when mother walks out of the room.
grow, most of us learn that screaming with rage is less than acceptable behavior. Soon, we know how to ask, cajole, complain,
manipulate, try again, try harder, even try something new although, after our first few years, this is rare. If nothing works,
most of us (both children and adults) feel sad or depressed which is probably what we felt before we got mad. With luck, we
soon cheer up and try again or perhaps we change our goal to something that seems more attainable. Our depression vanishes
and we are hopeful and busy again.
Some people spend much of their lives being depressed. Perhaps, like babies who cry and no one
responds, they quit trying and sadness becomes a way of life. Others never learn to cope with disappointment and failure or
have the impression that success should be easy and life is treating them unfairly if it isn't.
Many, many of us have the idea that being faithful to God means He will make our path smooth and
easy. We believe He loves those who are rich and healthy more than those who are poor and sick. No wonder we are cross if
we don't get our own way!
Baha'i Writings make it very clear this outlook is unrealistic -- in fact, Baha'u'llah tells us God tests those who love Him.
Still, the idea that a loving God is one who gives us what we want, when we want it, is a hard belief to give up.